I know, who even says that, right!!!! But I’m serious. It is the most stressful part of my day most days. Unless Maggie is going through a growth spurt, naptime exhausts me. Now, I’m sure part of this is my fault, but that’s how it is.
She is 17 months old, and I like to think that she could sleep for an hour or two without waking up…not the case. She’s been like that since birth. A little cat napper. 10 minutes here or there. I read every book about this I could think of and have tried everything I can think of, nothing seems to help. Now don’t get me wrong, we have improved, but it’s still awful!
To make it even more fun, she’s at that stage where she doesn’t always need 2 naps, but most days she does. That’s fine, I can handle that part but when she only takes 1 nap, it’s barely an hour long and she is such a crank!
Here’s what our day looks like, we get up around 7 or 730. Sometime between 10-11 she is generally ready for a nap. Most days, this happens to be when we are leaving a baby class or the gym and she sleeps in the car for about an hour (yes, I’m that parent that let’s their kids keep sleeping in the car). If we are home, I end up holding her for this nap, and some days, it lasts almost 2 hours. Then about 3-3.5 hours after she wakes up, she is ready for another nap.
Her afternoon nap, I am really consistent with because we are almost always home during this time. I still nurse her, but she is always awake when I lay her in her crib. Usually if I just sit in the room for a few minutes, she goes right to sleep. I go downstairs and attempt to do things (like blog). I’m lucky to get 20 minutes before she is awake. I give her time to settle herself down, but it almost never happens. If I go up there, I don’t pick her up. I sit outside her crib with my hand on her back for a few minutes, then just sit by her until she falls back asleep. If she falls asleep again, I go back downstairs, and within 15 minutes, she’s awake again. Now, I have a sound machine playing in her room, room darkening shades, all that jazz, but she wakes up every 15 or 20 minutes, so I get absolutely nothing done.
I am not the cry it out type. I hate listening to that, but there are days like today where I have no clue what else to do. If I go up there, I will just be frustrated with her. If I don’t, she will cry and cry and cry. And then, the end result is, still no nap. I desperately need something to work….the baby will be here in 3 months, and while I know a lot can change in 3 months, it’s not that long for something we have been working on forever already!
I wouldn’t care how long she slept for if she could wake up happy, but she doesn’t. She needs at least two total hours of naps a day, and honestly, unless I hold her or sit in her room the entire time, it doesn’t happen. I know, sitting in the room is our best option, but I parent alone most days, her dad works out of state for weeks at a time. I need this time to recharge during the day. I just want a little time to myself during the day so I don’t sit up until midnight every night in order to get it.
Today has been a no nap day, she’s up there yelling at me and her nap time is over, but I can’t bring myself to go get her just yet. I have to start dinner soon, and she will be crabby and clingy because she is tired. As it is, she’s been whiny as can be today. I am just at my wits end today! A mommy can only take so much! I know consistency is key here, and so I do my best to be consistent, but I don’t know what the best solution is for her and I, only that something has to change before baby is here. It’s even more frustrating because bedtime goes so well. She will wake up and go back to sleep a few times in her crib at night. Not really sure what the difference is.
I would love to hear how you deal with nap time and what works for you. Please share your tips and tricks…just don’t judge me because the munchkin is crying while I write this. I desperately need a little time away from her today 🙁 How did you know your toddler was ready to move to one nap?