Summer #BlogChallenge August 14 Piece of advice to new parents

A piece of advice for new parents….Don’t you just love how everybody thinks that they have advice you need to hear?  I find it annoying, and this is my second child.  He’s only 6 weeks old and I have heard “you are spoiling him already” about a million times.  Yes, I spoil my kids…I nurse when they want it, I let them sleep on my lap.  They aren’t going to be little forever!  
Anyways, the piece of advice I have is take it a day at a time.  You don’t have to have all of the answers right away.  Just because you are told how you should do something, doesn’t mean it is right for your family, your child, or you.  When Maggie was born, I had said, I will never have my children sleep in my arms / on my lap.  I won’t rock my kids to sleep when they are almost 2.  My kids will cry it out and sleep in their bed.  I will give breastfeeding a shot.  Kids should be off the bottle by the time they are 1.  Ok.  Reality check!  From day 1, she slept with me in my bed.  What was I thinking?  I don’t want my baby to cry.  I want her close.  I LOVE breastfeeding her.  When she wants it, not when the clock says to.  I never imagined that I would still be nursing her at 22 months or that it would be important throughout that first year and after.  
So that’s it folks.  Do what is best for your family.  Even when it goes against the norm.  In your heart, you will figure out what is the right thing to do for your kiddos and you and your family.  What you think you will do when you have a baby may just get blown out of the water by what you actually choose to do when that baby arrives.  That’s okay!  
So, what piece of advice do you have for new parents?  (You are all wonderful readers, so I know you will be respectful of others advice / opinions).

4 Comments

  • I am a new reader of your blog and actually have a question about this! I too 10 months ago swore I would never co-sleep and I would let my little cry it out…I also breastfeed…early on I started pretty much exclusively pumping….except for at night.

    I am at a crossroads. I want my small to sleep in his crib through the night…but I refuse to let him cry. This week has been hell…I initially decided on the cry it out method but realized that wasn’t for me! So I have been rocking him to sleep with a bottle & placing him in his crib without incident….until he wakes up for the first time- usually around 2 AM.

    He won’t take the bink or a bottle he just cries and cries until I give him the boob…at this point I am ready to throw in the towel and continue co-sleeping and breast feeding. Does your 2 year old still sleep with you and does she get up in the middle of the night? If not- what did you do to break these habits …? I am SO stressed about this…it is literally consuming me.

    Sorry for the long windedness! Thanks in advance.

    Lacey

  • Hi Lacey! Thanks for reading my blog 🙂
    Yes, both of my babies sleep with me. Maggie will be two in October, and when she was about 14 or 15 months old, she got a bad cold and needed drinks of her water throughout the night and I accidentally discovered that if I offered her her sippy of water when she woke at night, that she didn’t really care if she nursed then. There were times that she wanted to still, so we did, but many nights, all she wanted was her sippy and a quick drink of water. It went really smoothly for us. Now I nurse her to sleep and then when she wakes up, she finds her cup herself, takes a drink and goes to sleep. That is what worked for us. She goes to bed in the crib in her room, but usually wakes up around the time I go to bed. I bring her to bed with me then just because John works out of state a lot, so I need to get the sleep I can. She sometimes wakes up once she is in my bed, but doesn’t need anything more than just touching me to go back to sleep.

    I completely understand the stress you are feeling! That’s what we go through if I try to get her to nap in her crib.

    I say if you feel that having him sleep with you and breastfeed, do it. You can always try again in a few weeks or months or whatever you decide. As I have been told, the sleeping situation is only a problem if it isn’t working for your family.

    Are you doing the same exact things to get him back to sleep as you are when you put him to bed?

    I haven’t figured out how to break the habits of waking up in the middle of the night yet. Maybe I will ask this on my facebook wall today and see what other moms have to say.

    Good luck Lacey, it is really hard on the parents when this happens. You are doing a great job!

  • Shannon! Thank you SOOOO much for replying. I LOVE co-sleeping, I do. And my husband is ok with it as well….with that being said I would like someday to sleep with out a child attached to my boob! Before he goes to bed he eats a bottle with cereal in it & then uses his binky if he isn’t completely asleep- I just started that and it seems to help a lot (the cereal). I think I am going to break him this way from the boob and then focus on getting him into the crib!!! Wish me luck & thanks for the advice! I really appreciate it!

  • Do what’s best for your family is the best parenting advice ever. I’m not a parent (yet) but I have worked as a nanny for many years and I know first hand that all families are different and they all comes from unique circumstances. I know I have given out advice, probably some unwanted before to parents but at the end of the day you have to do what is comfortable for you. My only stipulation on that is on safety and health matters.
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